It has finally happened, one of my friends kids just got married yesterday. They have 3 boys 3 1/2 years apart, from oldest to youngest. The mother of the groom, who is my friend is 10 or so years older than me, but she is definitely a friend in my group. When they came to our church her middle son who just got married was 9 years old, the age of Evan now. I suddenly felt so old, and it made matters worse when the bride and groom spoke to me and referred to me as Mrs. Brock. I mean when did I become Mrs. Brock, sure some of my friends small children call me that, but not adults getting married. Are they not now in my peer group of married folks that call each other by their first names, or have I entered the realm of the peculiar middle aged lady. I remember these middle aged ladies, they were my moms friends. While they were not yet old ladies, they certainly weren't young or exciting. They weren't the married ladies who drew my attention, they weren't the young ones holding one cute baby. I still feel young and you know that I still look so young, so what could of possibly happened in the blink of an eye.
I further remember these middle aged ladies telling me to enjoy my time, youth, looks, health while it lasted because it would be gone in no time. Somehow I lived in ignorant bliss that it would never happen to me, that somehow I would escape the years. Now my friend who said goodbye to one of her boys yesterday tells me to enjoy them while they are young and at home, that the time flies and pretty soon it will be me sitting in the front of a church somewhere watching my baby marry another baby. I laugh because I know how right they all were, and because I am now one of them, telling young mothers to hang in there, that "this too shall pass."
A World Without Water Halts...
4 weeks ago
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I think of myself as young too but the other day I was going through boxes and saw a picture of me with Sienna when she was two and I certainly would say that I don't look the same right now : ) : ) : ) We can still be the interesting ladies if we are doing interesting things we just can't show up and 'be' interesting anymore : )
Yes we must remember to enjoy every moment of life, it is not forever.
Ash
Enjoy them while they are still young and in the house? Are you kidding me?
I'm counting down the days ..... we are talking a year and a half and our knuckleheads are off to college or the "real world" --- old or not, I am definitely going to enjoy THOSE days!!!
Its too bad you don't have a bit o' Asian in ya, sista --- it helps to curve the aging process! Or at least I keep telling myself that.
And btw, I think you look gorgeous for someone who is in her 40s :P
Ok, so you two are delusional as well.
Well I think you DO look young. i often wonder where the time has gone myself, it just slips away so fast. I cannot believe my twins will be 12 in March!!!!!!!! Seems like yesterday they were born and fighting for their lives. MY my where does the time go.
Yes, that bride calls me Mrs. Rollins and it makes me feel old. I really only think of myself as being a couple of years older than she is. I'm really having a hard time with this not-being-pregnant thing. That's what makes me feel aged. Like I'm not being useful anymore if I'm not breeding.
No. I'm not pregnant. I checked. I probably won't get pregnant if I don't give away my maternity clothes. He never went back to the doctor to make sure the surgery was successful, so we're just kind of "if it happens, it happens". It would be great either way.
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